Genre

Enemies to Lovers

/ˈɛn.ə.miːz tuː ˈlʌv.ərz/ phrase
IN ONE SENTENCE

A romance trope where two characters begin as antagonists and their conflict gradually transforms into attraction and love.

Definition

Enemies to lovers is arguably the most popular romance trope in modern publishing. Two characters who actively dislike, oppose, or clash with each other discover, through forced interaction and grudging respect, that the intensity of their antagonism hides a deeper connection. The transformation from hostility to vulnerability is the emotional engine, and the moment one of them first lets their guard down is often the most powerful beat in the story.

Why It Matters

Enemies to lovers dominates BookTok, bestseller lists, and reader wishlists. Understanding this trope's mechanics teaches you how to write compelling interpersonal tension, the transition from conflict to vulnerability, and character growth through relationships. It's also proof that readers crave emotional complexity, not comfort, from their love stories.

Famous Examples

Pride and Prejudice — Jane Austen

Darcy and Elizabeth's mutual contempt dissolving into love as their prejudices fall away, the foundational enemies-to-lovers text.

The Cruel Prince — Holly Black

Jude and Cardan's antagonism is genuine and dangerous, making the shift to love feel hard-won.

Beach Read — Emily Henry

Rival writers who challenge each other's genre assumptions, a lighter take on the trope.

Common Mistakes

Making the 'enemies' phase too mean

There's a line between compelling antagonism and cruelty. The reader needs to believe these people could fall in love. If one is too awful, the romance feels unearned.

Rushing the transition

The shift from hate to love needs to be gradual and grounded. Each moment of vulnerability should be earned by what came before.

Try It Yourself

Quick Exercise

Write two scenes between the same two characters. Scene one: they clash. Show genuine conflict with real stakes, not just bickering. Scene two: one of them is vulnerable (hurt, afraid, exposed) and the other helps despite themselves. The contrast between these two moments is the whole trope in miniature.

CONTINUE LEARNING
Planning & Structure
Enemies to lovers requires mapping the emotional arc from antagonism through grudging respect to love.